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Your friend has just set you up with a guy you
have never met and know nothing about, except
what she has told you. You have those fears. What
if I don't like him or what if I like him but
he doesn't like me. Well don't worry, we are here
to help.
Keep an open mind
Remember this is a blind date. You have never
seen this guy before. Don't form a mental image
of him or have high expectations. You will only
be disappointed if he is not how you imagined.
You will know within the first few minutes whether
you are attracted to him or not.
Keep it short, but sweet
Don't arrange to meet at the cinema, for dinner
or anywhere else that could keep you together
for more than an hour. Arrange to meet up for
a coffee or during your lunch break. If you are
not interested in the guy then you can make a
quick exit. If you have only agreed to meet for
half an hour or an hour, and if you do like him,
then you can stay where you are or arrange to
meet up again.
Way out
It is crucial, when on a blind date that you have
an escape route. You could get a friend to call
you 30 minutes into the date and if you don't
like him you can make an excuse and leave.
If you do like him then you can tell your friend
to call you back later. (Remember to always let
someone know where you are.) You could tell him
that you promised your friend you’d go shopping
an hour after you and he planned to meet.
If the date is going well, pretend to go call
her to let her know that "you’re not
up to going shopping." You could get some
friends to turn up at the meeting point, and if
things aren't going well you can leave with them,
however, if things are going well tell them you
will meet up with them later.
Meet ‘n’ Greet
One of the biggest mistakes people make when going
on a blind date is trying to be someone their
not.
When meeting someone for the first time, be yourself.
Your personality will shine through only if you’re
not trying to be something you aren’t. While
first impressions are important, do not feel the
need to wear heels on a Sunday if you’d normally
wear flip-flop sandals. He wants to know who you
are; not who you think he wants you to be.
Better safe than sorry
While going on a blind date can be exciting and
fun, remember that you have no firsthand knowledge
about the person you are meeting. If you have
been set up through mutual friends, they will
most likely have a rough idea of your plans. But
just in case, make sure someone knows exactly
where and when you’re meeting.
If the person you are meeting is a complete stranger,
you need to take even more precautions. Make sure
someone knows your whereabouts, knows the name
of the person you will be meeting, and how long
the date is scheduled for. You may want to have
a friend join you, or "run into you"
about 15 minutes into the date to check up on
you.
Who's paying?
Make it clear from the start if you intend to
pay for half of everything. You may not want to
feel like you owe the guy anything.
Goodbye
Parting after a blind date has the potential to
be very awkward, but it doesn’t have to be!
Should you kiss him, if you like him? Should you
tell him you aren’t interested? It’s
always best to do whatever you think feels right.
If you are interested in going out with him again,
make sure he knows it and tell him that you will
call. If you aren’t interested in seeing
him again, make sure that you let him know. It’s
better to be honest then stringing him along under
false hopes.
Getting to know him
Pay close attention to the things he says, which
can reveal a lot. Discussing taste in music, film,
food, and art can be a great way to find out if
you have common interests—or nothing in common
at all!
You should also look for common "warning
signs" when on a blind date. If the guy does
any of the following, watch out!
Talks about his ex-girlfriend throughout the
date.
Doesn’t offer to pay for the first date
(or the second, or third…)
Speaks badly about his mother or ex-girlfriends.
Treats the waiters & staff rudely & doesn’t
offer a tip.
Remember, not everyones tastes are the same and
there will be things about a guy that you do not
like, such as baldness, lack of hygeine etc..
These are your own warning signs so don't ignore
them.
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